Heidi’s story

Here is an amazing story my friend and FEW Member, Heidi, wrote about her recent journey to wellness. Her story brought me to tears! Let me know what you think of it!!

In 2014, I separated from my husband. I had to stay married for an extra year due to a lawsuit. Once all of that was complete I was able to file for divorce. My divorce became final mid-December of 2015. I was pretty numb and closed off, not wanting to be around many people through the holidays. I made sure I created security for my daughter and started our new “normal.”

2016 was an interesting year. Throughout that year, I made choices that were based on the following theme: “How can I create the most comfortable environment for my daughter and myself?” That theme truly started earlier when I separated but I didn’t start to LIVE it until my divorce was final and I could start to breathe again.

My business year ends on June 30, so I worked the beginning of 2016 to create a big win in June. Once that was complete, I realized that I still wasn’t “satisfied” or at peace.

Working with Kim and my business mentor, I realized that the lack of satisfaction in my business and life was stemming from my lack of self-care and lack of self-belief.

While working on my self-belief with my mentor, I started to pay attention to myself. With my daughter getting older and able to be alone at times, I arranged in my schedule one night a month for myself. With my child visitation schedule, I had every Saturday open. Work or no work? Didn’t matter. I was free to completely control my own self. I was told by those closest to me, they could see almost an awakening of who I used to be. Funny, Energetic, Creative, and Driven in my business and my father told me it had been a long time since he heard me laugh (tears run here).

Then the poop hit the fan with my EX in December of 2016. All I’m going to say is that it shook my new household to the core and raised my blood pressure. So, for the second time in 3 years, I went to a doctor’s appointment with a very high BP. And for a second time, I was lectured about my BP, my weight, my allergic reactions and break outs on my face, my overall health, and what I should consider for my future. I listened and I prayed. The only person my daughter can rely on is me. No one else. Me. So, my business has a plan of action to create a future financially for my household and I implemented it. If anything happens to me, my daughter will be covered.

That left my personal health. What to do? Do I listen or do I continue to fake it?  I realized if I was my best friend, I was treating that friend horribly.

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It turns out that I am truly gluten intolerant. There have been some people who weren’t supportive. To them…  I’m following a fad. I’m following some easy diet. I’m following a trend. But it is real. And if you don’t believe or support me, you are also getting eliminated.

My doctor was right. Go figure. The gluten thing had to be figured out. Do I want to go cold turkey two weeks before Christmas or go slow? Am I making excuses to really get started? I don’t want to throw out hundreds of dollars’ worth of groceries, so what do I do?

 I started with a few small sacrificial steps and more importantly, an attitude of THIS IS IT. I did some reading. I talked to some close friends who are gluten-free and asked for some advice. I created a plan, and started to eliminate gluten. I took a business trip, made great food choices, planned backups for eating, and for the first time in a long time, I felt the best I ever did while traveling.

My meal planning has come easier over time. I’ve replaced gluten items with some gluten free things, and have just stopped eating other things. It hasn’t been as bad as I originally thought. I may have had some meltdowns in the grocery store and left, but thank goodness you can create a tribe around you to talk you through and give you hope.

I’ve found new food combinations, and I really love them. Of course, fresh items are key. I have always cooked at home from scratch. I just do it differently than before. Everything seems to taste better. Go figure.

Now it’s almost 5 months in my new health/eating cycles. What have I learned? It’s not as hard as you make it in your own mind.

  • Your attitude towards it makes the BIGGEST difference.
  • You must have a TRIBE. IF you don’t, create one. Your inner circle NEEDS to be tight. IT should be trimmed and do not feel bad about anyone who is eliminated.
  • If you don’t take some self-care, it will cause more damage later. If you don’t take active steps to lower your stress, it will eventually kill you.
  • Listen to your body. It is talking to you. Don’t ignore it. It’s always with you.
  • Build your Faith body. It will carry you no matter how tired, how weary, how worried, how fearful. Your faith is always with you too.
  • Self-care is my most favorite thing now and I can give back so much more because I take care of myself first.

I feel better, I’m more energetic, my blood pressure is back under control and I’ve lost weight. Most importantly, my daughter is watching all of this unfold. Who’s watching you? If you don’t know… then you need to know that there are those around you who are watching. Represent.

I’m building a future for my daughter and I’m ready to move to a level that will blow everyone else out of the water. Why? Because I am getting better EVERY SINGLE DAY.

Go ME!

Heidi Endicott
Independent Sales Director
Mary Kay Cosmetics

Spring means…

Today is the first day of Spring…

Spring is here! The Spring season is one of my favorite seasons. After a long, cold Winter, the sun begins to warm us again and new life springs forth where it once appeared dead. I can’t help but to draw the parallel to the seasons of life. I have experienced many “long Winters,” and many beautiful “Spring seasons” as I’ve walked with God through many storms and I have learned the same lesson each time: Spring always comes after Winter!

Always.

Do you need a “Spring Season” in your life right now? Has it been a long, cold Winter in your health, finances or relationships? Maybe you are in a spiritual Winter and it seems like your Spring will never arrive. Then I have a word to strengthen you today.

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This is our promise! Winter will pass and our season of singing will come!

Just like Spring means growth, hope and new life, we are entering a season where God wants to bring all of those things to you. As Spring brings the warmth of the sun, you are poised to experience the warmth of The Son! As the beauty of creation comes to life once again, so your soul will come alive again because of God’s great love for you. When you look to the beauty of plants, flowers and trees in bloom, I want you to picture your heart, mind and life in bloom!

I know it still looks like winter and last week it really felt like winter! But you don’t doubt that Spring is here, do you? Of course not. You don’t need someone to convince you that Spring is upon us because it is written on the calendar.

It is written.

Well, just like the calendar tells us that we can expect Spring to follow Winter, it is written in God’s Word that we can expect our spiritual Spring to follow our long, cold Winters, too. We can expect God’s Love to shine through on us.

Do you expect it?


Today, I feel compelled to pray with you. Wherever you are in your life, whichever season, will you declare this with me today?

Lord, I thank you that Spring is here! Just as nothing or no one can stop the warmth and life-giving rays of the sun, nothing and no one can stop your LOVE from bringing life, growth and renewal to me! I receive the gift of your LOVE and renewal today, and I lift my expectation HIGH. Higher than it has ever been. I will wait on you with joy and patience for my “Spring” to appear. I trust in your goodness, God, and I thank you in advance for what you are about to do. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Now, when it seems like your winter won’t end, stand on this promise with me!

Lo, the winter is past, the rain is over and gone; The flowers appear on the earth; the time of the singing of birds is come, and the voice of the turtle [turtledove] is heard in our land.  -Song of Solomon 2:11,12

With Great Expectations,

Kim
xoxo

peace, joy and love are great until…

 

Peace, joy and love are great until…

 

Your heart is troubled.
You are filled with fear.
You are agitated and annoyed.
You are facing a crummy situation.
You are hurt or offended by someone’s selfish choices.THESE are the moments, the moments when you feel the least peaceful, joyful or loving, when you need the power of peace, joy and love the most.I told you at the beginning of 2017 that these were my words for this year, and I meant it. I have been keeping their meanings close to my heart, leaning on each of them in trying times and generally, I have been doing pretty darn good! But proven character is character that is tested and I am not immune from that.

So, when I am being tested, (and it feels like I’m being tried by fire), eventually I realize that I need to re-focus on these three weapons and access the power that they give me to overcome my trials. I have come up with some questions to ask myself when I know I need to re-center and re-focus. My answers to these questions reveal just how full of peace, joy and love I really am. (Or… am not!) Do you want to know what the questions are? I thought you might! Here you go–

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First I ask and answer these questions, then, I allow the truth to set me free…

Is my heart troubled/distressed by anything?

 

Am I entertaining any fear?

Peace I leave with you. My peace I give to you; not as the world gives, give I to you. Don’t let your heart be troubled, neither let it be fearful. –John 14:27

I don’t need to give myself over to a troubled and anxious heart. I can choose peace as I trust in God’s power to do for me what I cannot do for myself.

Am I allowing myself to be agitated by anyone?

Be silent before the Lord and wait expectantly for Him;
do not be agitated by one who prospers in his way,
by the man who carries out evil plans.

Refrain from anger and give up your rage;
do not be agitated-it can only bring harm.
For evildoers will be destroyed,
but those who put their hope in the Lord
will inherit the land. –Psalm 37:7-9Well, this could not be more clear! I can practice self-control and decide not to give in to agitation, irritation or anger. This is a lot easier when I put my hope in God’s plan for my life.

Am I enthusiastically expecting GOOD things to come?

The definition of joy is…The passion or emotion excited by the aquisition or expectation of GOOD.

I have joy when I expect good things to happen in my life. I can look forward to those good things even if today wasn’t so good.

I have Your decrees as a heritage forever;
indeed, they are the joy of my heart. –Psalm 119:111


Am I perpetually forgiving? Or is someone on my hook?

Proverbs 10:12 says that “love covers a multitude of sins.” That doesn’t mean love covers up for or lies about others’ mistakes, it means that love chooses to forgive. It is easy to hold other people’s offenses against them but that puts me in a really bad place. Not only does it eat me up inside, it puts me in a bad spot because God won’t let me off of His hook if I won’t let others off of mine. When I choose love and choose forgiveness I am showing the compassion to someone else that I really need from God for myself. (And that is just plain wise.)

Here’s the thing… peace, joy and love are a weapon because they keep me safe from the havoc that an anxious, troubled, agitated and angry heart cause me. I choose them because I want to live my best life.

How about you? Will you choose peace, joy and love today?

xoxo,
Kim

12 traits of the truly humble

I’m going to get right to it… here are the 12 traits of the truly humble. They:

1. Ask for help when needed

2. Are hard to offend and are quick to forgive

3. Are patient and compassionate with the weaknesses of others

4. Are peacemakers and peace lovers

5. Know when to be quiet and when to speak

6. Have a tender conscience

7. See their weaknesses and readily admit and work on them (self-aware)

8. Are quick to apologize when wrong

9. Make others look good and celebrate others’ successes

10. Happily serve others without expectation of applause

11. Have an attitude of gratitude toward God and people

12.  Treat all people with respect and are good to everyone, even if they do not ‘deserve it’

I think C.S. Lewis, summed it up in his book, Mere Christianity, when he said⎯

“True humility is not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself less.”


I’m sure it is plain to see from the list above that cultivating humility in our lives will only serve to improve our relationships AND increase our own happiness. But that doesn’t mean it will be easy. My challenge for us this week (and always) is to choose humility when our natural tendency is not to.

Oh, and don’t forget to invite God into this endeavor. Ask Him to help you see where you need to humble yourself and to give you the strength to do it. We are hard-pressed as humans to walk in humility on our own. We need the ability that God gives, through His Spirit, to live like Jesus did, laying His life down for those He loved.

Remember to tell me how you choose to cultivate humility this week. I want to hear about it! Reply to this email, post on my Facebook fan page

or message me. xoxo!

Cultivating Humility,
Kim

getting out of your own way and being the best you

Feeling stuck?

Well, today it was technology that got me stuck! Hence, your #MondayMotivation showing up at day’s end.

Better late than never as the saying goes… and this one is one you don’t want to miss!

In this video, I will tell you about the FOUR Things that will get you stuck- and keep YOU in your own way. And then I will tell you about the FOUR Things you need to put to work in your life to get out of your own way and become the BEST You.

Watch here… and get (or stay) unstuck!
I want to hear from you–what did you learn about you today? What are your action steps going to be after hearing this? Go for it! I believe in you!

Now, go get your dreams and desires for your life and future!

xoxo,

Kim
PS. Darren Hardy says that personal development is the yellow brick road to success– in any and every area of life. That means that an investment in YOU is an investment in SUCCESS!

Sign up today for my Breakthrough Group Coaching Experience and put the 5 Factors for Breakthrough to work for you NOW!

without a vision, you will stumble

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If you do not have a vision or picture in your mind for your future and destiny, you will not fulfill it. Proverbs 29:18 tells us that without a vision, people stumble all over themselves.

God gave Joseph a dream when he was very young that he would one day be leader over all. That dream became his vision and was his anchor through many terrible storms. Storms that most of us will never experience like:

○Being thrown into a pit and left to die (by his own BROTHERS!)
○Being sold as a slave in a foreign land
○Being separated from his family for many years
○Being accused of rape although completely innocent

○Being unjustly imprisoned for rape for years

Through it all, he focused on the future God promised Him that was an anchor in the storms and the vision in his mind. He continued to do the right things in spite of the wrong that was done to him…and guess what?

He went from the prison to the palace in ONE DAY. One day. And he was ready because he did right and kept the vision in front of him for YEARS before it ever happened.

How about you? Do you have a vision for your life? Has God given you any inkling about your purpose? If so, keep it in front of you -attend to what He reveals to you and keep attending to it…and you will be MOST BLESSED.

xoxo,

Kim

Meet Carolyn Hutsen, FEW’s EWM

Introducing,
CAROLYN HUTSEN,
FEW’s Extraordinary Woman of the Month!

You will love Carolyn — she is absolutely INSPIRING! She is a woman I want to be around. Carolyn has been a beacon of light and love in my life since 2010 when we met at a candle party. She is a secure woman who pours into others with a great mind for business and that is why, Carolyn is also a Member of the FEW Board of Advisors. I keep her in my world because she runs after her destiny, loves the Lord and she builds people up. You’ll see… here is Carolyn!

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Kim: Tell me about your occupation and family. 

 

I am Senior Grassroots Manager at NFIB (National Federation of Independent Business) and Owner of The Hutsen Group, LLC, Leadership Development and Coaching.

As a John Maxwell Certified Coach, Teacher and Speaker, I offer workshops, seminars, keynote speaking, and coaching, aiding personal and professional growth through study and practical application of John Maxwell’s proven leadership methods.

As owner of The Hutsen Group, I am passionate about empowering individuals and teams to embrace their strengths and reach for the stars in the area of personal growth and leadership development. After I first read John Maxwell material 15 years ago, I knew immediately that his philosophy aligned with my beliefs and convictions. When I learned about the John Maxwell Team opportunity, it was a natural progression to join.

I was born and raised in Indianapolis, Indiana and attended Indiana University. I now reside in Wisconsin with my husband, Randy and two grown sons

Courtney – 35 and Brandon – 30 who recently married my wonderful Daughter-in-Love, Val.

We enjoy Big Ten Basketball, the Indianapolis Colts, the Green Bay Packers, and the Milwaukee Brewers. Bullet Remington, a chocolate Labrador retriever, adopted us on Mother’s Day 2014 and enthusiastically leads us on frequent long walks in the park. My free time is invested in serving as a part-time chaplain at a local senior care facility. I support and encourage each resident as they journey through the final season of life.

Carolyn with her dog, Bullet Remington



Celebrating the completion of a 6-week Mastermind on The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership with dynamic women leaders

 


I think Bullet has Carolyn’s heart and I can see why!

 

 

Kim: Who are 1 or 2 extraordinary people that have inspired you most?

My mother, who is in Heaven, is my inspiration in many areas, the two most impactful, ways being how she modeled and lived out her faith and how she so LOVED being a mother! Her mother passed away when she was only 9 years old. Even though a mother figure was absent in her life, motherhood and family were her passions and she excelled at both.   
 

  

  

Kim: What are your most extraordinary accomplishments?
 

Although I’ve had wonderful and successful career opportunities and experiences, my greatest accomplishments and fulfillment are my family. I’ve been married for 37 years to the love of my life, Randy, and we have 2 successful and wonderful sons who continue to bring much joy and pride into our lives.  My family has taught me the power of unconditional love. It’s almost more than I can comprehend, that as much as I love them, God loves them even more. That kind of love is difficult to understand at times, yet, being a parent, gives me a glimpse of God’s love for me.
 

A recent accomplishment that has impacted my personal and professional development has been becoming a Certified John Maxwell Coach, Speaker and Trainer. The certification process and ongoing training experience have given me new PURPOSE in my life, by helping others DISCOVER THEIRS! 

Kim: In your own words, what do you think it is that makes a woman extraordinary?

From a factual and spiritual perspective, the fact that I am a child of the Most High God tells me everything I need to know about being extraordinary. Psalm 139:14 states “I will give thanks to You for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; wonderful are your works, and my soul knows it very well.” In other words, God made me in His image and I am His wonderful creation. We are created in His image, perfection in his eyes. My desire is for women everywhere to understand and embrace the power of God’s love for them. 
On a practical and emotional level, I see extraordinary women every day. They are mothers, wives, sisters, friends, employees, pastors, teachers, entrepreneurs, and leaders just to name a few! What makes a woman truly extraordinary is how she lives her life, nourishes her relationships, uses her God-given gifts, strengths, and character, to live out her purpose and fulfill her Destiny. [Well said, Carolyn!!]


Kim: What kind of impact do you strive to have on other women and how do you achieve it?

 

I am passionate about helping women FIND and DEFINE their purpose. Women juggle so many things in life, today and often define themselves by what they do, not who they truly are as an individual.  They are so busy “DOING” that they don’t have time to “BE.” We are human beings, not human doings! God created us for a unique purpose and my goal is to help women understand how special and loved they are by the One who designed them. I can speak to this because of my own journey, my journey to discover my purpose and fulfill my Destiny. I am still a work in progress! I discovered my real passion and purpose in life during the third quarter of my life so am especially motivated to help women discover theirs much earlier. It’s NEVER too late. I accomplish this in my relationships, through my current job, by coaching clients and during Leadership Development teachings that I offer through The Hutsen Group, LLC. I’ve come to realize that women everywhere are looking for significance. They want to know that they are making a difference.

 

Kim: If you had one message to share with women, what would it be?
Remember, “you are fearfully and wonderfully made” and perfect in His sight. 

Kim: What is something on your bucket list that you are yet to do that you consider extraordinary?

Wow! Great question! I have a vision and desire to travel internationally and teach leadership….stay tuned!  

 

Kim: What is your favorite inspirational quote or bible verse?

Although I have several favorite scriptures, Jeremiah 29:11 and Psalm 46:10 have spoken to me most recently. When we truly learn to be still and rest in the assurance that the One who created and equipped us has already laid out the perfect plan for our lives, we will have the confidence to move forward to live out His plan. 

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

Be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth! Psalm 46:10

 

A perfect note to end on. If you knew Carolyn, you would come to expect her to lift you up with joy, words of life and leave you with greater faith. Thank you for inspiring us, Carolyn. You are truly extraordinary!

How has Carolyn’s story impacted you? Let me know by replying to this email!

To contact Carolyn regarding Leadership Training for yourself or your business, click here for her website .
Choosing to be Extraordinary,
Kim