down with perfectionism

It’s that time of year again… you know… Chirstmas-time. A holy time we set aside to… obsess and freak out! Wait, what?

Yep. We freak out because our house has to be perfect, our cookies have to be perfect, the gifts have to be perfect. The party MUST be perfect!!!

Blah blah blah.

Well, not this girl! Not this year! No, I have taken a major stand against perfectionism in my life and this Christmas season will be no different.

Some of the cookies will be amazing and some will be dry.
Some of the gifts will hit the mark and some will disappoint.
Not every gift is even going to get a bow on it.
I guarantee you I’ll forget something important.
And I refuse to go to every single thing I’m invited to because I will be the one who pays the price of exhaustion and falling behind.

And I’m okay with all of it! Because instead of pursuing perfection this Holiday Season, I will pursue excellence.


Excellence empowers! So first and foremost, I will choose the most excellent thing to give my energy to:

Loving people.

That’s right, I will be pursuing excellence in LOVE this Christmas. That means showing people that I love, that I love them, in the ways that they feel loved. And that might not involve a box with a bow on it at all. (But it will definitely involve cookies because food is the 6th love language!)

So who’s with me? Let’s pursue excellence in everything we do this Christmas season, NOT PERFECTION. Most of all, let’s pursue excellence in LOVE.

Now that’s the recipe for a MERRY CHRISTMAS!



don’t let THIS steal your hope

You want something in your life to be better…much better. Maybe it’s a relationship with a significant person. Maybe it’s your health or an a addiction you are killing yourself to kick. Maybe you want way more than your job is offering you. Maybe it’s that debt you want to erase. Maybe it’s your out-of-control anger. Or maybe it’s just general unhappiness that you have spent years complaining about and you’ve finally decided to get on track to get happy! And then…

There’s a setback.

You botch it…big-time.

Or they botch it…big-time.

Or you get bad news about your health, finances or job.

If you are like me, the thing that happens next is one or any combination of these:

1. Discouragement
2. Frustration
3. All out anger
4. And ultimately, loss of hope

Friends, don’t let ‘this’ steal your hope!

What is ‘this’? ‘This’ is any event or events that do not go the way you would like them to. It is any circumstance that appears to be taking you in the opposite direction of the direction you want to be going in.

Please don’t let this steal your hope! Why? Because….

Nothing’s changing? More bad news? That doesn’t mean it will never happen. I implore you today not to let that steal your hope. You need hope. I need hope. Hope is the anchor of our soul.

I want you to be equipped to hold on to hope even when things go south. So, here is my best tip to hold onto hope and this week’s #MondayMotivation-

The biggest thief to hope is actually NOT your circumstances. It is your EMOTIONS. Your emotions turn when the situation turns and that makes you believe that there is no hope. But guess what? You can use your will to choose hope. That’s right… your will can overrule your emotion’s vote and choose to hold onto hope. Your will is actually more powerful than your feelings, but your feelings are so compelling that you may have a hard time believing that.

Listen, you are like a huge ship on open waters… you can end up just about anywhere, but you are steering toward a certain destination. Unfortunately, the wind and waves are not making it easy. They are working against you. But guess what you have goin’ for you? The rudder.

No matter how large the ship, it is steered by a very small part called the rudder. The rudder is a flat piece, usually of wood, metal, or plastic, hinged vertically near the stern of a boat and when turned, ever so slightly, the course of this journey and ultimately, the destination are changed dramatically.

Your will is that rudder, my Friend. You can choose hope with your will in spite of the wind and waves of troubles and emotions. You can steer your ship by choosing HOPE regardless of the overwhelming messages to give up. And once you choose hope, anything is possible!
God is the source of all hope, He is the One with whom all things are possible and He is the ONE reason we always have hope. He can make your valley of trouble into a door of hope! He has done this for me and He will do it for you!
So I encourage you today, to listen to hope’s whisper and try one more time. Give it your all one more day. Open your heart and choose with your will to hold onto the hope God offers you today.

With High Hopes,


Scholarships available for Single Moms


When I was a single mom, a few key people believed in me. In fact, they believed in me enough to invest in me. And that is one of the main reasons I am here doing what I do and writing you this email today.

Single moms have a special place in my heart. I was raised by one, and I became one. Single moms carry the weight of the world on their shoulders that few people who haven’t lived it will ever understand.

They are full of promise, talent and vision (when they are not completely exhausted). They give their all for their children and work hard to make ends meet. And many times, they are doing these things with very limited resources. I know I sure had to.

Well, now I want to give back. That is why I am offering a $600 Single-Mom Scholarship for BOTH the Coauthor Opportunity in The Miracle Effect and the FEW Women’s Leadership Course. (Cost of each is $900.)

If you are a single mom, or you know one, please apply today by downloading the FEW Scholarship Application, filling it out and returning it to me. Comment below if you’d like to submit an application. I will select one recipient for each scholarship and make the announcement on December 2, 2016.

Single Mom, I believe in you. I believe you can still live your purpose and passion and make your mark on the world regardless of your obstacles. So many single moms have gone before us and have proven it!

If you are a Single Mom and you have a Miracle Story to tell and want to coauthor The Miracle Effect, or you desire to be a leader in Faith, Family and Business, apply today.

These $600 scholarships are for Single Moms only. The Miracle Effect Coauthor scholarship is for a Single Mom who is a first-time author (who has never been published). The remaining balance due for the Coauthor Publishing Package and WLC is $300.)