12 traits of the truly humble

I’m going to get right to it… here are the 12 traits of the truly humble. They:

1. Ask for help when needed

2. Are hard to offend and are quick to forgive

3. Are patient and compassionate with the weaknesses of others

4. Are peacemakers and peace lovers

5. Know when to be quiet and when to speak

6. Have a tender conscience

7. See their weaknesses and readily admit and work on them (self-aware)

8. Are quick to apologize when wrong

9. Make others look good and celebrate others’ successes

10. Happily serve others without expectation of applause

11. Have an attitude of gratitude toward God and people

12.  Treat all people with respect and are good to everyone, even if they do not ‘deserve it’

I think C.S. Lewis, summed it up in his book, Mere Christianity, when he said⎯

“True humility is not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself less.”


I’m sure it is plain to see from the list above that cultivating humility in our lives will only serve to improve our relationships AND increase our own happiness. But that doesn’t mean it will be easy. My challenge for us this week (and always) is to choose humility when our natural tendency is not to.

Oh, and don’t forget to invite God into this endeavor. Ask Him to help you see where you need to humble yourself and to give you the strength to do it. We are hard-pressed as humans to walk in humility on our own. We need the ability that God gives, through His Spirit, to live like Jesus did, laying His life down for those He loved.

Remember to tell me how you choose to cultivate humility this week. I want to hear about it! Reply to this email, post on my Facebook fan page

or message me. xoxo!

Cultivating Humility,
Kim

getting out of your own way and being the best you

Feeling stuck?

Well, today it was technology that got me stuck! Hence, your #MondayMotivation showing up at day’s end.

Better late than never as the saying goes… and this one is one you don’t want to miss!

In this video, I will tell you about the FOUR Things that will get you stuck- and keep YOU in your own way. And then I will tell you about the FOUR Things you need to put to work in your life to get out of your own way and become the BEST You.

Watch here… and get (or stay) unstuck!
I want to hear from you–what did you learn about you today? What are your action steps going to be after hearing this? Go for it! I believe in you!

Now, go get your dreams and desires for your life and future!

xoxo,

Kim
PS. Darren Hardy says that personal development is the yellow brick road to success– in any and every area of life. That means that an investment in YOU is an investment in SUCCESS!

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without a vision, you will stumble

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If you do not have a vision or picture in your mind for your future and destiny, you will not fulfill it. Proverbs 29:18 tells us that without a vision, people stumble all over themselves.

God gave Joseph a dream when he was very young that he would one day be leader over all. That dream became his vision and was his anchor through many terrible storms. Storms that most of us will never experience like:

○Being thrown into a pit and left to die (by his own BROTHERS!)
○Being sold as a slave in a foreign land
○Being separated from his family for many years
○Being accused of rape although completely innocent

○Being unjustly imprisoned for rape for years

Through it all, he focused on the future God promised Him that was an anchor in the storms and the vision in his mind. He continued to do the right things in spite of the wrong that was done to him…and guess what?

He went from the prison to the palace in ONE DAY. One day. And he was ready because he did right and kept the vision in front of him for YEARS before it ever happened.

How about you? Do you have a vision for your life? Has God given you any inkling about your purpose? If so, keep it in front of you -attend to what He reveals to you and keep attending to it…and you will be MOST BLESSED.

xoxo,

Kim

Meet Carolyn Hutsen, FEW’s EWM

Introducing,
CAROLYN HUTSEN,
FEW’s Extraordinary Woman of the Month!

You will love Carolyn — she is absolutely INSPIRING! She is a woman I want to be around. Carolyn has been a beacon of light and love in my life since 2010 when we met at a candle party. She is a secure woman who pours into others with a great mind for business and that is why, Carolyn is also a Member of the FEW Board of Advisors. I keep her in my world because she runs after her destiny, loves the Lord and she builds people up. You’ll see… here is Carolyn!

Carolyn with her family
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Kim: Tell me about your occupation and family. 

 

I am Senior Grassroots Manager at NFIB (National Federation of Independent Business) and Owner of The Hutsen Group, LLC, Leadership Development and Coaching.

As a John Maxwell Certified Coach, Teacher and Speaker, I offer workshops, seminars, keynote speaking, and coaching, aiding personal and professional growth through study and practical application of John Maxwell’s proven leadership methods.

As owner of The Hutsen Group, I am passionate about empowering individuals and teams to embrace their strengths and reach for the stars in the area of personal growth and leadership development. After I first read John Maxwell material 15 years ago, I knew immediately that his philosophy aligned with my beliefs and convictions. When I learned about the John Maxwell Team opportunity, it was a natural progression to join.

I was born and raised in Indianapolis, Indiana and attended Indiana University. I now reside in Wisconsin with my husband, Randy and two grown sons

Courtney – 35 and Brandon – 30 who recently married my wonderful Daughter-in-Love, Val.

We enjoy Big Ten Basketball, the Indianapolis Colts, the Green Bay Packers, and the Milwaukee Brewers. Bullet Remington, a chocolate Labrador retriever, adopted us on Mother’s Day 2014 and enthusiastically leads us on frequent long walks in the park. My free time is invested in serving as a part-time chaplain at a local senior care facility. I support and encourage each resident as they journey through the final season of life.

Carolyn with her dog, Bullet Remington



Celebrating the completion of a 6-week Mastermind on The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership with dynamic women leaders

 


I think Bullet has Carolyn’s heart and I can see why!

 

 

Kim: Who are 1 or 2 extraordinary people that have inspired you most?

My mother, who is in Heaven, is my inspiration in many areas, the two most impactful, ways being how she modeled and lived out her faith and how she so LOVED being a mother! Her mother passed away when she was only 9 years old. Even though a mother figure was absent in her life, motherhood and family were her passions and she excelled at both.   
 

  

  

Kim: What are your most extraordinary accomplishments?
 

Although I’ve had wonderful and successful career opportunities and experiences, my greatest accomplishments and fulfillment are my family. I’ve been married for 37 years to the love of my life, Randy, and we have 2 successful and wonderful sons who continue to bring much joy and pride into our lives.  My family has taught me the power of unconditional love. It’s almost more than I can comprehend, that as much as I love them, God loves them even more. That kind of love is difficult to understand at times, yet, being a parent, gives me a glimpse of God’s love for me.
 

A recent accomplishment that has impacted my personal and professional development has been becoming a Certified John Maxwell Coach, Speaker and Trainer. The certification process and ongoing training experience have given me new PURPOSE in my life, by helping others DISCOVER THEIRS! 

Kim: In your own words, what do you think it is that makes a woman extraordinary?

From a factual and spiritual perspective, the fact that I am a child of the Most High God tells me everything I need to know about being extraordinary. Psalm 139:14 states “I will give thanks to You for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; wonderful are your works, and my soul knows it very well.” In other words, God made me in His image and I am His wonderful creation. We are created in His image, perfection in his eyes. My desire is for women everywhere to understand and embrace the power of God’s love for them. 
On a practical and emotional level, I see extraordinary women every day. They are mothers, wives, sisters, friends, employees, pastors, teachers, entrepreneurs, and leaders just to name a few! What makes a woman truly extraordinary is how she lives her life, nourishes her relationships, uses her God-given gifts, strengths, and character, to live out her purpose and fulfill her Destiny. [Well said, Carolyn!!]


Kim: What kind of impact do you strive to have on other women and how do you achieve it?

 

I am passionate about helping women FIND and DEFINE their purpose. Women juggle so many things in life, today and often define themselves by what they do, not who they truly are as an individual.  They are so busy “DOING” that they don’t have time to “BE.” We are human beings, not human doings! God created us for a unique purpose and my goal is to help women understand how special and loved they are by the One who designed them. I can speak to this because of my own journey, my journey to discover my purpose and fulfill my Destiny. I am still a work in progress! I discovered my real passion and purpose in life during the third quarter of my life so am especially motivated to help women discover theirs much earlier. It’s NEVER too late. I accomplish this in my relationships, through my current job, by coaching clients and during Leadership Development teachings that I offer through The Hutsen Group, LLC. I’ve come to realize that women everywhere are looking for significance. They want to know that they are making a difference.

 

Kim: If you had one message to share with women, what would it be?
Remember, “you are fearfully and wonderfully made” and perfect in His sight. 

Kim: What is something on your bucket list that you are yet to do that you consider extraordinary?

Wow! Great question! I have a vision and desire to travel internationally and teach leadership….stay tuned!  

 

Kim: What is your favorite inspirational quote or bible verse?

Although I have several favorite scriptures, Jeremiah 29:11 and Psalm 46:10 have spoken to me most recently. When we truly learn to be still and rest in the assurance that the One who created and equipped us has already laid out the perfect plan for our lives, we will have the confidence to move forward to live out His plan. 

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

Be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth! Psalm 46:10

 

A perfect note to end on. If you knew Carolyn, you would come to expect her to lift you up with joy, words of life and leave you with greater faith. Thank you for inspiring us, Carolyn. You are truly extraordinary!

How has Carolyn’s story impacted you? Let me know by replying to this email!

To contact Carolyn regarding Leadership Training for yourself or your business, click here for her website .
Choosing to be Extraordinary,
Kim

don’t give up on the people you love

Years ago, my sister and I were driving together as we noticed a bumper sticker that neither of us had seen before. You’ll probably remember it– it said,

“Mean People Suck.”

After laughing a little and Amen-ing the sentiment, my sister paused and said,

“Actually, it should just say, ‘People Suck’!”

Let’s be honest… people are hard; some harder than others. Chances are there are some hard people in your life right now. (There’s even a chance YOU could be someone else’s hard person.) Sometimes it is someone that is so different from us and we just can’t see eye to eye. Sometimes it is a child who is in rebellion or stubborn. Sometimes it is someone who doesn’t care as much about themselves as we do about them. Whatever the case, the struggle is real!

And when we struggle with tough relationships, it is easy to give up on someone we love.

But let’s not! Sure, there are times we must separate from destructive behavior. But there are also times when God whispers,

“Don’t give up on them. Not yet. You’ll know why later…”

Today’s #MondayMotivation challenges you to listen to that whisper. Watch this short video…

 

Don't give up on the people you love
Don’t give up on the people you love.
 

Keep your love on,

Kim
xoxo

 

PS. If you are struggling with this, check out Danny Silk’s book, “Keep Your Love On,” or join me at February 9th’s FEW Events. Danny’s book is where I got my inspiration for FEW’s February topic: “Make and Keep Connections in Faith, Family & Business.”

*Meet Lisa Shimon, FEW’s Extraordinary Woman of the Month*

Introducing,
LISA SHIMON,
FEW’s Extraordinary Woman of the Month!
You will be so inspired by Lisa! She is absolutely AMAZING. I recently got to have coffee with her and her faith and success just blew me away. She is a woman I want to be around! She is fearless, passionate, driven and her gift of faith makes her absolutely extraordinary. Her deep love for God will blow you away. She is a woman after my heart!

This is Lisa dancing with her eldest son, Jordan. After getting to know Lisa, I think this picture totally encapsulates her spirit!
She also loves Harleys, what else do you need to know? Heehee!
Lisa has been extremely successful in sales and more recently has ventured out into entrepreneurship, specifically helping women, which I also love. Women in business for themselves totally inspire me and I hope they do you, as well. I knew after chatting with Lisa about her journey both in business and in life that she needed to be December’s Extraordinary Woman of the Month. Here is my interview with Lisa. Be inspired, be challenged and choose to be extraordinary!

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Kim: Tell me about your occupation and family.

I have worked for Cox Media/Valpak for 14 years. I am VP of Key Accounts and have been in the top 5-10% of sales nationally for 11 years. I recently felt God calling me to venture into owning my own consulting business with Rodan Fields.
I have 4 children, two daughters and two sons, ages 33, 29, 28,and 23. I have (almost) 3 grandchildren. My newest, a little boy, is due any day. I will just say this: life goes way too fast. We are told that all the time when our children are young but we never believe it. Believe it.

Lisa’s youngest daughter, Mailey.



Mailey and Casey, Lisa’s two daughters

Lisa’s son, Spencer, on a mission trip in Guatemala


Here is Lisa with her granddaughter, Jovi. She is one HOT grandma!!

Lisa and her grandson, Lawson.
Kim: Who are two extraordinary people that have inspired you most?

I have been inspired by many people but two that stand out are Rhea Briscoe and my mother, Gloria Burchell Anderson.

In 2010, I went through a radical encounter with God that change my life forever. I longed to find a church or ministry that would feed my soul like what I encountered in Washington, D.C. during a visit with my son. God lead me to Rhea’s ministry, Snowdrop Ministries. She is spirit filled, in love with Jesus and God speaks through her. She continually challenges me to dig deeper and be obedient to the voice of God over all things in my life. Since 2010, God continues to take me deeper in His Presence and lead me lovingly to take hold of that for which He took hold of me.

My mother, angel on earth, is the most giving woman you will ever meet and one amazing mother and grandmother.

Lisa, her granddaughter and her mom.



She is and has always been there for all of us. She has taught me what it means to sacrifice for children, how to place others first and my most thankful gift, the gift of hospitality. My childhood home was always open to anyone for a night stay, a meal or a place to spend your holidays.

I have to share this story. When I was 14 my brother and his friend picked up two girls hitchhiking. He brought them home. They were in fact, runaways from Illinois.

My parents were out for the night. Knowing they would ask too many questions we hid them in our basement for the night. I kept getting up and checking on them. Early in the morning my mom got up and heard a noise in the basement. I got up quickly so that she would not panic. She found the girls and I told her the story of how Bob had brought them home. She brought the girls upstairs, made them breakfast and talked with them about how they needed to go home and that their mom was probably sick with worry. They ended up calling their mom. I don’t think I will ever forget the fact that my mom was not angry, just loving and compassionate with the girls. It is her heart and giving that I embrace today. I love it when people say, you are just like your mom.

Kim: What are your most extraordinary accomplishments?

I have accomplished many things in life but I think the most life-changing have been my current job, my children and the current road where God is taking me now.

There is nothing like being nationally recognized for your accomplishments in your job. It took me 3 years to accomplish what, if others even make it there, take 7 years to do it. I loved my clients and nothing was better than seeing my work increase the company’s sales. It provides a sense of recognition that is very fulfilling and I love teaching others how to duplicate it. God has been very faithful in taking care of my financial needs through this company.
 
My children, I believe are my legacy. Raising children definitely comes with challenges. They make good and bad choices. I think I have come to believe that what really matters is who they become as adults and have I given them the tools to become loving, giving, successful people. All my children are grown and I can honestly say that I love each of them for who they are. They have turned out quite well. All hard-working, not spoiled as many are today, and all are loving caring people. I remember reading a book when they were young by Ann Ortland called, “Children are Wet Cement.” This book taught me that it is how we mold them that matters. Children know love not just by time but by the quality of time with them. They only know life as they see it and life is always about them. We must be a part of their world to have a voice in that world. We need to be there for everything – say yes more when they are little and say NO more when they are teens. We tend to do the opposite. I can honestly say my heart is full when I look at my children. My son, Jordan, is in ministry in Washington, D.C., Spencer is an entrepreneur who is always inventing and has his hand in many things. I have two girls. Casey,  the eldest of all my children, lives in New York and works for three men in the entertainment world. I have been jealous of her many times because she has met some amazing people through these men. 😉 My youngest daughter, Mailey, also lives in New York. She just graduated from college and is already working on Broadway and in film. She is a costume designer and she is so good!

        

If these children are my only legacy I am very happy. I also know that God has His hand on their lives and I am a praying mom that the enemy can’t stand against.


Lastly, I also consider this place or road where God continues to lead me an accomplishment in my life. I feel such a sense of gratefulness for His love, His voice, His Provision. I can honestly say that I love knowing and trusting the voice of God to take me where He wants. This road of Trust and Faith has been one that God has had to transform in many places. He continues to show Himself faithful and to refine me in many ways. It is a crazy place when you can honestly say to God, “I will go anywhere you want.” It is a beautiful place completely trusting God with all that you are. I often say the beauty of the unknown in God is such a crazy good place.

One place God is currently telling me to go is in business as a  Rodan and Fields Independent Consultant. This amazing business is a vehicle for me to be a blessing to other women. As I share our amazing age-defying products, I get to help women be beautiful on the inside, too. My encounters with women are precious to me as I feel so compelled to tell women how God sees them and loves them endlessly. R+F’s slogan is ‘changing skin/changing lives‘ and that is exactly what I get to do every day.

(By the way, Lisa is my new R+F Independent Consultant and she’s about to take 10 years of this face! Woot woot!)

Kim: In your own words, what do you think it is that makes a woman extraordinary?

What makes women extraordinary is God. He makes us all extraordinary. To quote Lisa Bevere, “We have no Rival.” He loves us each uniquely. Now what we do to walk in that and KNOW that is up to us. We must diligently seek Him to know Him. I’ve learned that He has a purpose for my life and it is one of beauty. I must press on to take hold of that for which He took hold of me. There will be bumps along the way, but He tells us that if we place ourselves in His Presence seeking intimacy with Him, His provision is always there. He rewards those who diligently seek Him. He has good plans and HE LOVES ME. I am His daughter and He withholds no good thing from me. He didn’t withhold His son so why would He withhold His goodness? It took me 48 years for God to reach my heart and say, “Don’t you know that it is ME you have been looking for all these years?” Trust me, HE IS ENOUGH AND HE IS ALL.

Kim: What is something on your bucket list that you are yet to do that you consider extraordinary?

 

Well, I just want to go to Europe and The Holy Land and I want to walk where Jesus walked. The second would be amazing because I believe God shows up in a way we can not know unless we are where Jesus was.

 

  

Kim: What is your favorite inspirational quote or bible verse?
I have a few Bible verses. My life verse is Psalm 46:10. “Be STILL and KNOW I am God.” Be still means let go, stop striving and knowing in this verse is an intimate thing. He wants us to know Him intimately.


There is also a message that God gave me that I quote all the time. “Remove the world where you can and replace it with God.” If you want to KNOW Him you must seek him. Sometimes we have to remove a lot to allow ourselves to place ourselves to hear from God.

Kim: What kind of impact do you strive to have on other women? Why?

My heart longs to let women know how deeply they are loved by God. I know this sounds cliche but He really does. If I could unzip a woman and place in her all that God has given me I would. He heals, He is the best counselor and He is enough. He is called Mighty God, Wonderful Counselor for a reason. We just have to want Him more than the world and we have to diligently seek Him. I promise He will reveal Himself and show up in a way that will change you forever.

Kim: What is your most passionate message to women?

No matter what your life has held, your choices or those things that have happened against you, God says, I love you with an everlasting love. He whispers, I am enough and ALL you need. Trust in me, seek me and I will be your God. In my Presence is the Provision of all of life.

Satan places many lies in our heads and lies to many of us about our identity. In the Presence of God, He heals our hearts and speaks truth to redefine our identities. Actually, it is the original identity that He gave us when we were being created. Satan can have a way of placing a lie in us that we believe and live out. BUT GOD says NO. I have come that you may have LIFE and have it more abundantly. We are children of God. You are a child of God. He loves you. He has the best for you. Everything He has is yours. Just ask and seek with all you are. If you want to know Him, seek Him. I promise He will show up and He will make your life amazing.
 

  

Well, I told you that you’d love her! Lisa inspires me to take bigger leaps of faith and to trust God more deeply. She also challenges me to be all that I can be in business. I love it. How has Lisa’s story impacted you? Let me know by replying to this email.

To contact Lisa, email her at lshimon2010@gmail.com, click here for her website or call her at (262) 617-1907.

Thank you for inspiring us, Lisa. You are truly extraordinary!
Inspired,
Kim