peace, joy and love are great until…


Peace, joy and love are great until…


Your heart is troubled.
You are filled with fear.
You are agitated and annoyed.
You are facing a crummy situation.
You are hurt or offended by someone’s selfish choices.THESE are the moments, the moments when you feel the least peaceful, joyful or loving, when you need the power of peace, joy and love the most.I told you at the beginning of 2017 that these were my words for this year, and I meant it. I have been keeping their meanings close to my heart, leaning on each of them in trying times and generally, I have been doing pretty darn good! But proven character is character that is tested and I am not immune from that.

So, when I am being tested, (and it feels like I’m being tried by fire), eventually I realize that I need to re-focus on these three weapons and access the power that they give me to overcome my trials. I have come up with some questions to ask myself when I know I need to re-center and re-focus. My answers to these questions reveal just how full of peace, joy and love I really am. (Or… am not!) Do you want to know what the questions are? I thought you might! Here you go–


First I ask and answer these questions, then, I allow the truth to set me free…

Is my heart troubled/distressed by anything?


Am I entertaining any fear?

Peace I leave with you. My peace I give to you; not as the world gives, give I to you. Don’t let your heart be troubled, neither let it be fearful. –John 14:27

I don’t need to give myself over to a troubled and anxious heart. I can choose peace as I trust in God’s power to do for me what I cannot do for myself.

Am I allowing myself to be agitated by anyone?

Be silent before the Lord and wait expectantly for Him;
do not be agitated by one who prospers in his way,
by the man who carries out evil plans.

Refrain from anger and give up your rage;
do not be agitated-it can only bring harm.
For evildoers will be destroyed,
but those who put their hope in the Lord
will inherit the land. –Psalm 37:7-9Well, this could not be more clear! I can practice self-control and decide not to give in to agitation, irritation or anger. This is a lot easier when I put my hope in God’s plan for my life.

Am I enthusiastically expecting GOOD things to come?

The definition of joy is…The passion or emotion excited by the aquisition or expectation of GOOD.

I have joy when I expect good things to happen in my life. I can look forward to those good things even if today wasn’t so good.

I have Your decrees as a heritage forever;
indeed, they are the joy of my heart. –Psalm 119:111

Am I perpetually forgiving? Or is someone on my hook?

Proverbs 10:12 says that “love covers a multitude of sins.” That doesn’t mean love covers up for or lies about others’ mistakes, it means that love chooses to forgive. It is easy to hold other people’s offenses against them but that puts me in a really bad place. Not only does it eat me up inside, it puts me in a bad spot because God won’t let me off of His hook if I won’t let others off of mine. When I choose love and choose forgiveness I am showing the compassion to someone else that I really need from God for myself. (And that is just plain wise.)

Here’s the thing… peace, joy and love are a weapon because they keep me safe from the havoc that an anxious, troubled, agitated and angry heart cause me. I choose them because I want to live my best life.

How about you? Will you choose peace, joy and love today?


12 traits of the truly humble

I’m going to get right to it… here are the 12 traits of the truly humble. They:

1. Ask for help when needed

2. Are hard to offend and are quick to forgive

3. Are patient and compassionate with the weaknesses of others

4. Are peacemakers and peace lovers

5. Know when to be quiet and when to speak

6. Have a tender conscience

7. See their weaknesses and readily admit and work on them (self-aware)

8. Are quick to apologize when wrong

9. Make others look good and celebrate others’ successes

10. Happily serve others without expectation of applause

11. Have an attitude of gratitude toward God and people

12.  Treat all people with respect and are good to everyone, even if they do not ‘deserve it’

I think C.S. Lewis, summed it up in his book, Mere Christianity, when he said⎯

“True humility is not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself less.”

I’m sure it is plain to see from the list above that cultivating humility in our lives will only serve to improve our relationships AND increase our own happiness. But that doesn’t mean it will be easy. My challenge for us this week (and always) is to choose humility when our natural tendency is not to.

Oh, and don’t forget to invite God into this endeavor. Ask Him to help you see where you need to humble yourself and to give you the strength to do it. We are hard-pressed as humans to walk in humility on our own. We need the ability that God gives, through His Spirit, to live like Jesus did, laying His life down for those He loved.

Remember to tell me how you choose to cultivate humility this week. I want to hear about it! Reply to this email, post on my Facebook fan page

or message me. xoxo!

Cultivating Humility,

getting out of your own way and being the best you

Feeling stuck?

Well, today it was technology that got me stuck! Hence, your #MondayMotivation showing up at day’s end.

Better late than never as the saying goes… and this one is one you don’t want to miss!

In this video, I will tell you about the FOUR Things that will get you stuck- and keep YOU in your own way. And then I will tell you about the FOUR Things you need to put to work in your life to get out of your own way and become the BEST You.

Watch here… and get (or stay) unstuck!
I want to hear from you–what did you learn about you today? What are your action steps going to be after hearing this? Go for it! I believe in you!

Now, go get your dreams and desires for your life and future!


PS. Darren Hardy says that personal development is the yellow brick road to success– in any and every area of life. That means that an investment in YOU is an investment in SUCCESS!

Sign up today for my Breakthrough Group Coaching Experience and put the 5 Factors for Breakthrough to work for you NOW!

without a vision, you will stumble

If you do not have a vision or picture in your mind for your future and destiny, you will not fulfill it. Proverbs 29:18 tells us that without a vision, people stumble all over themselves.

God gave Joseph a dream when he was very young that he would one day be leader over all. That dream became his vision and was his anchor through many terrible storms. Storms that most of us will never experience like:

○Being thrown into a pit and left to die (by his own BROTHERS!)
○Being sold as a slave in a foreign land
○Being separated from his family for many years
○Being accused of rape although completely innocent

○Being unjustly imprisoned for rape for years

Through it all, he focused on the future God promised Him that was an anchor in the storms and the vision in his mind. He continued to do the right things in spite of the wrong that was done to him…and guess what?

He went from the prison to the palace in ONE DAY. One day. And he was ready because he did right and kept the vision in front of him for YEARS before it ever happened.

How about you? Do you have a vision for your life? Has God given you any inkling about your purpose? If so, keep it in front of you -attend to what He reveals to you and keep attending to it…and you will be MOST BLESSED.



Meet Carolyn Hutsen, FEW’s EWM

FEW’s Extraordinary Woman of the Month!

You will love Carolyn — she is absolutely INSPIRING! She is a woman I want to be around. Carolyn has been a beacon of light and love in my life since 2010 when we met at a candle party. She is a secure woman who pours into others with a great mind for business and that is why, Carolyn is also a Member of the FEW Board of Advisors. I keep her in my world because she runs after her destiny, loves the Lord and she builds people up. You’ll see… here is Carolyn!

Carolyn with her family

Kim: Tell me about your occupation and family. 


I am Senior Grassroots Manager at NFIB (National Federation of Independent Business) and Owner of The Hutsen Group, LLC, Leadership Development and Coaching.

As a John Maxwell Certified Coach, Teacher and Speaker, I offer workshops, seminars, keynote speaking, and coaching, aiding personal and professional growth through study and practical application of John Maxwell’s proven leadership methods.

As owner of The Hutsen Group, I am passionate about empowering individuals and teams to embrace their strengths and reach for the stars in the area of personal growth and leadership development. After I first read John Maxwell material 15 years ago, I knew immediately that his philosophy aligned with my beliefs and convictions. When I learned about the John Maxwell Team opportunity, it was a natural progression to join.

I was born and raised in Indianapolis, Indiana and attended Indiana University. I now reside in Wisconsin with my husband, Randy and two grown sons

Courtney – 35 and Brandon – 30 who recently married my wonderful Daughter-in-Love, Val.

We enjoy Big Ten Basketball, the Indianapolis Colts, the Green Bay Packers, and the Milwaukee Brewers. Bullet Remington, a chocolate Labrador retriever, adopted us on Mother’s Day 2014 and enthusiastically leads us on frequent long walks in the park. My free time is invested in serving as a part-time chaplain at a local senior care facility. I support and encourage each resident as they journey through the final season of life.

Carolyn with her dog, Bullet Remington

Celebrating the completion of a 6-week Mastermind on The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership with dynamic women leaders


I think Bullet has Carolyn’s heart and I can see why!



Kim: Who are 1 or 2 extraordinary people that have inspired you most?

My mother, who is in Heaven, is my inspiration in many areas, the two most impactful, ways being how she modeled and lived out her faith and how she so LOVED being a mother! Her mother passed away when she was only 9 years old. Even though a mother figure was absent in her life, motherhood and family were her passions and she excelled at both.   



Kim: What are your most extraordinary accomplishments?

Although I’ve had wonderful and successful career opportunities and experiences, my greatest accomplishments and fulfillment are my family. I’ve been married for 37 years to the love of my life, Randy, and we have 2 successful and wonderful sons who continue to bring much joy and pride into our lives.  My family has taught me the power of unconditional love. It’s almost more than I can comprehend, that as much as I love them, God loves them even more. That kind of love is difficult to understand at times, yet, being a parent, gives me a glimpse of God’s love for me.

A recent accomplishment that has impacted my personal and professional development has been becoming a Certified John Maxwell Coach, Speaker and Trainer. The certification process and ongoing training experience have given me new PURPOSE in my life, by helping others DISCOVER THEIRS! 

Kim: In your own words, what do you think it is that makes a woman extraordinary?

From a factual and spiritual perspective, the fact that I am a child of the Most High God tells me everything I need to know about being extraordinary. Psalm 139:14 states “I will give thanks to You for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; wonderful are your works, and my soul knows it very well.” In other words, God made me in His image and I am His wonderful creation. We are created in His image, perfection in his eyes. My desire is for women everywhere to understand and embrace the power of God’s love for them. 
On a practical and emotional level, I see extraordinary women every day. They are mothers, wives, sisters, friends, employees, pastors, teachers, entrepreneurs, and leaders just to name a few! What makes a woman truly extraordinary is how she lives her life, nourishes her relationships, uses her God-given gifts, strengths, and character, to live out her purpose and fulfill her Destiny. [Well said, Carolyn!!]

Kim: What kind of impact do you strive to have on other women and how do you achieve it?


I am passionate about helping women FIND and DEFINE their purpose. Women juggle so many things in life, today and often define themselves by what they do, not who they truly are as an individual.  They are so busy “DOING” that they don’t have time to “BE.” We are human beings, not human doings! God created us for a unique purpose and my goal is to help women understand how special and loved they are by the One who designed them. I can speak to this because of my own journey, my journey to discover my purpose and fulfill my Destiny. I am still a work in progress! I discovered my real passion and purpose in life during the third quarter of my life so am especially motivated to help women discover theirs much earlier. It’s NEVER too late. I accomplish this in my relationships, through my current job, by coaching clients and during Leadership Development teachings that I offer through The Hutsen Group, LLC. I’ve come to realize that women everywhere are looking for significance. They want to know that they are making a difference.


Kim: If you had one message to share with women, what would it be?
Remember, “you are fearfully and wonderfully made” and perfect in His sight. 

Kim: What is something on your bucket list that you are yet to do that you consider extraordinary?

Wow! Great question! I have a vision and desire to travel internationally and teach leadership….stay tuned!  


Kim: What is your favorite inspirational quote or bible verse?

Although I have several favorite scriptures, Jeremiah 29:11 and Psalm 46:10 have spoken to me most recently. When we truly learn to be still and rest in the assurance that the One who created and equipped us has already laid out the perfect plan for our lives, we will have the confidence to move forward to live out His plan. 

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

Be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth! Psalm 46:10


A perfect note to end on. If you knew Carolyn, you would come to expect her to lift you up with joy, words of life and leave you with greater faith. Thank you for inspiring us, Carolyn. You are truly extraordinary!

How has Carolyn’s story impacted you? Let me know by replying to this email!

To contact Carolyn regarding Leadership Training for yourself or your business, click here for her website .
Choosing to be Extraordinary,

don’t give up on the people you love

Years ago, my sister and I were driving together as we noticed a bumper sticker that neither of us had seen before. You’ll probably remember it– it said,

“Mean People Suck.”

After laughing a little and Amen-ing the sentiment, my sister paused and said,

“Actually, it should just say, ‘People Suck’!”

Let’s be honest… people are hard; some harder than others. Chances are there are some hard people in your life right now. (There’s even a chance YOU could be someone else’s hard person.) Sometimes it is someone that is so different from us and we just can’t see eye to eye. Sometimes it is a child who is in rebellion or stubborn. Sometimes it is someone who doesn’t care as much about themselves as we do about them. Whatever the case, the struggle is real!

And when we struggle with tough relationships, it is easy to give up on someone we love.

But let’s not! Sure, there are times we must separate from destructive behavior. But there are also times when God whispers,

“Don’t give up on them. Not yet. You’ll know why later…”

Today’s #MondayMotivation challenges you to listen to that whisper. Watch this short video…


Don't give up on the people you love
Don’t give up on the people you love.

Keep your love on,



PS. If you are struggling with this, check out Danny Silk’s book, “Keep Your Love On,” or join me at February 9th’s FEW Events. Danny’s book is where I got my inspiration for FEW’s February topic: “Make and Keep Connections in Faith, Family & Business.”