strategies for working (& learning) from home (COVID-19)

 

  1. MAKE YOUR BED ~Heidi Endicott

This creates a simple, daily discipline that impacts your whole day positively–for both you and your kids. “If you want to change the world, start by making your bed.” US Navy Admiral, William H. McRaven

  1. GET DRESSED IN PANTS THAT BUTTON ~Heidi Endicott

You view yourself, your day, and the world differently when you have pants that button vs. pajama pants or leggings. Kimberly says, if you do wear leggings, then wear shoes with a heel. 😉 Whatever you do, dress for work and school!

  1. CREATE A NEW SCHEDULE. ~KJK

Now is not the time to cling to the past. “The only people who should be stuck in the past are historians.” (Author Unknown) We are not historians we are history-makers. Acceptance is key! Run with the new normal and create a structure that works for your day, your kids, your family. Share ideas with other Mompreneurs but don’t fall into the compare/compete trap. Families are as unique as fingerprints, and although all families need some structure, it isn’t supposed to be identical. Ask yourself what that needs to look like for your family to remain productive, happy, and for you to stay sane. This may involve working less or at different times of the day, but rest assured, you and your kids need a schedule.

Teachers know that the more routines the class has, the fewer discipline problems they will have to deal with. Kids feel safer, calmer and are more focused, and as a result there is more time spent on learning and less time spent dealing with problems.

Do yourself a favor during these trying times. Establish and maintain routines for the home. Set time schedules regarding getting up, dressing, eating, learning time, snack time, TV and screen time, chores, fun, play, and exercise. And, of course, bedtime. Be sure to include age-appropriate breaks from online learning and plenty of family relaxing. These are tough times.

You’ll be surprised. Your kids can handle this. They will thrive on it. Many parents discover that they tend to expect much less of kids than what they can really handle.    

–Excerpt from Dr. Charles Fay of the Love and Logic® Institute

  1. USE A TRACKER ~KJK

It’s hard to remember everything your kids are supposed to do each day (especially if you work from home) and then hold them accountable. Trackers help you do both! They also serve to remind the kids so that you don’t have to. Track their daily exercise, homework, chores, wake-up, meal, and bed times. Trackers I have created for my kids are:

Daily Tracker which includes wake-up time, and bedroom times (I have teens) along with daily schoolwork, chores, and exercise.

Quarantine Project Tracker which includes a list I made of bigger household cleaning/organizing projects I’d like accomplished. They got to select their jobs and then created their own deadlines with my approval.

Creative Project Tracker this is simply a place they can jot down ideas for things they can do that are fun, who they will do them with, and the date they did them. My girls are creative and need to look forward to creative outlets. Examples are photoshoot, do mom’s makeup and hair, make care packages of cookies to be given to family and friends.

Exercise Goals Tracker which can be customized to each child. My son’s includes daily push-ups, sit-ups and cardio since he can’t work out that the school gym right now.

Customize a tracker for your objectives, too!

  1. ESTABLISH A MORNING ROUTINE ~KJK

Just because none of you are leaving doesn’t mean you shouldn’t schedule routine wake up times and breakfast. What works for you and your family? What doesn’t? Do you need to get up an hour before the kids to “get your Jesus on” before the day begins? Then make it your routine. Whatever you do, start the day strong and intentionally because it impacts everyone’s productivity.

  1. CREATE-A-SPACE ~KJK

Create a space for your work, for their work, and their play. Assign these

spaces so that everyone knows where they need to be during “work

time.” And where they need to go for play/break time. Stock work areas with needed supplies within arms’ length. Leave phones/unnecessary electronics in another place while focused work is required. Suggested spaces: Creative space, reading space, play space, school space, workspace.

  1. USE A TIMER ~KJK

Make tasks for you and your kids less daunting by setting a timer for 20-25 minutes of focused work. Adjust for age and tasks. Take short breaks in between these short bursts of focused learning/working.

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Create a block schedule for you and your kids with scheduled breaks in between that is more age or task appropriate. Invite your kids to contribute to decision making! Giving them some control over their schedule increases the odds that they will cooperate!

  1. TAKE BREAKS! ~KJK

Everyone in your home will need both physical and mental breaks. Stand, stretch, walk, run, do push-ups, sit-ups, jumping jacks. Turn on worship music or turn everything off for a quiet time break. Exercise mid-day instead of morning to clear your head for afternoon tasks. Make a personal (fun) phone call in between bursts of focused work. Let your kids have a virtual playdate. Allow for fun/play breaks (recess) in the fresh air for your young ones and encourage your older kids to go for a walk, run, or bike ride.

  1. TEACH LIFE SKILLS~KJK

Use this time to teach chores and life skills! Studies show the factor that influences future success more than any other isn’t HOMEWORK. It isn’t SPORTS. It’s CHORES! Yes, chores are the factor that contributes most to their future success as adults. Google “age-appropriate chore list,” allow them to choose 2-3 daily jobs and post them on the fridge or add them to your tracker. Are you thinking, “Sounds great, but what if they won’t do them?” Visit loveandlogic.com to sign up for their FREE Parenting the L&L Way Classes in the month of April and learn appropriate consequences for kids who won’t do their chores.

Get them helping while you build their character and their confidence. Doing chores and having life skills reduced kids’ anxiety when they are out on their own. They can learn: all varieties of household cleaning, cooking, laundry, yard work, auto maintenance, meal planning, grocery shopping, and balancing a checkbook to name a few.

 

When the leader gets better, everyone gets better! ~Craig Groeschel, Global Leadership Champion

overcoming fear’s paralyzation

Someone recently asked me, “how did you overcome crippling anxiety”?
My answer: “First and foremost, by renewing my mind with the Word of God. And then, mostly by doing the things I was afraid of.”
In my quest for fearlessness, I noticed that even when I believed all of God’s promises for my life, He didn’t always remove the things I was afraid of. In fact, sometimes, it felt like He gave me a perfectly timed shove … straight into them. (Gah!) But why?
Is God just insensitive to our fears? Or slow to keep His Promise to protect us?
No, not at all. He just happens to know a heck of a lot more than we do about how fear works in the human heart. He knows that fear PARALYZES us, and if we give in to that paralyzation and stop moving, FEAR WINS.
He knows that fear has one main motive: TO STOP US.
Did you ever see fear’s paralyzing grip on your kids? I have. Many times. One example more on the lighter side is one I call the “ranch story”. When my daughter was younger and we ate at fast food places, she was afraid to go up to the counter and ask for more ranch dip for her chicken nuggets. She would say, “Mommy, will you please go ask for more ranch for me?” I would say, “Ohhhh, no sweetie, but if you want more ranch, you can go ahead and ask. I’ll watch you from here.”
Now, this girl loves her ranch dip. But she would say, “Nevermind.”
Despite her love for and desire for ranch, the fear of approaching a stranger and being center of attention paralyzed her. We had to go through this exercise several times. I don’t remember how many … a lot. Until one day, she wanted that ranch bad enough that she TOOK ACTION IN THE FACE OF PARALYZING FEAR.
I knew from the start, if she couldn’t ask for ranch sauce, she would never have the confidence to do the much harder things life will demand of her. Now, she is old enough to apply for a job. Soon, she will have to sit through an interview. Soon after that, she will be working and she will be the one kids are asking for ranch. She will be on the other side of her fear. Literally!
I hated to see fear stop her, and for her to feel like I wouldn’t help her. But what I hated MORE was the possibility that fear would stop my girl from becoming the glorious, confident creation she was created to be.
That’s the way the Father looks at us when fear stops us dead in our tracks.
He says, “No, I’m not removing this discomfort–because this isn’t who you were created to be. I’m right here with you; watching while you face it head on. And when this is over, when you are on the other side of this fear, you will be bolder, wiser, and more glorious than you already are.”
Friends, it’s time to face our fears. It’s time to push past paralyzation and TAKE ACTION. I heard a great quote recently that motivates me to do just that. I’ve been chewing on it a lot lately when I find I am afraid.
“The devil has no idea what to do with a fearless Christian.”
I don’t remember who said it, but, WOW. I want to be that Christian! Billy Graham said it this way:
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So, believe God!
Step out in Faith!
Confound your enemy!
Take action when everything in you says “FREEZE!”
Be a Christian that the devil just doesn’t know what to do with!
On a quest for fearlessness,
Kimberly

the cure for fear is … fear

Weird, right? I know. Stick with me for a second. It’ll make sense in a bit.
This is a fearful time. It’s practically tangible when you’re talking to people about what’s going on in the world right now. We are all dealing with fearful thoughts about the well-being of loved ones, sickness, quarantines, death, closing businesses, finances. the economy, and even toilet paper!
I confess I have wondered, “Where will I get toilet paper if we run out?”
All these thoughts are overwhelming and it seems to be getting worse. Businesses are closing and events are canceling. Kids are home from school. More measures are being taken every day to limit our exposure to each other to prevent the spread of Coronavirus. Hold on … I need to stop here and say this: The real problem we’re dealing with right now is NOT the Pandemic. It’s Fear. Because …
Fear is fear, no matter what the circumstances.
What do I mean? I mean that it doesn’t matter so much WHAT you fear, it’s the FEAR itself that’s your problem, not the thing you’re afraid of. It could be cancer, bankruptcy, divorce, depression, or Coronavirus, and your mind and thoughts will act in the very same way. Irrational. Panicky. Unstable.
I know this. I have lived most of my life as a VERY fearful person.
In my quest to banish fear in my life (still on it by the way, because fear is a bugger!), I found many, many verses in Bible that tell me NOT to be afraid. Then I stumbled across one that says I SHOULD EMBRACE FEAR. (What?) But not just any fear … certainly not ALL fear. It says I should embrace just ONE kind of fear; the kind of fear that BANISHES all others.
The Fear of The Lord.
Proverbs 19:23 says, “The fear of the Lord leads to life, and whoever has it rests satisfied; he will not be visited by harm.” Why does it say that?
Because whatever you fear, you will bow to. Whatever you bow to, you are subject to. Would you rather be subject to FEAR and all it promises, or subject to God and all He promises?
To remove fear’s tyranny from our lives, we must fear (honor, revere, bow to) The Lord.
This is how we live without fear of anything else! FEAR is the cure for FEAR. I love how Oswald Chambers says it:
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Friend, bow before The Lord today and pledge your fear, honor, reverence, and service to the One who promises you can rest satisfied and unharmed. Then encourage those around you to do the same, because “the Fear of The Lord leads to life,” and God knows we need more of that in this world!
Bowing to The Lord,
Kimberly